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9 Great Things to Try in Bed

Variety is the spice of life, and humans quickly get used to routine. Our sex lives are no exception. Many couples in long-term relationships struggle with humdrum sex and are looking to try new things in bed. 

Actually, there are a few reasons why it’s a good idea for couples to try to keep improving their sex lives. Here are some of them:

  • Overcoming dry spells — Dry spells are normal in every relationship. Depending on life circumstances, like illness or new babies, they are often unavoidable at times. But, it’s easy to let a dry spell turn into a permanent situation. Trying new things in bed can make sex more exciting and unpredictable and, ultimately, make you want it more.
  • Loving your changing body — Not surprisingly, many people struggle with the ways age and childbearing affect their bodies. Discovering new things to try in bed allows you and your partner to find new ways to continue loving your bodies.   
  • Evolving intimacy — Trying new things in bed often requires vulnerability and power shifts. While this can feel scary, it’s also a good thing. The change in relational dynamics can lead to greater intimacy and trust for couples, both of which help maintain long-term relational health.

If you’re ready to try something new to spice up your sex life, here are a few ways to get started.

Communication is always important in a relationship. This applies to sex too! Some of the new things to try in bed can be surprises, but some need to be talked about beforehand. If you are unsure if your partner would enjoy something you’d like to try, talk to them first. No new sex idea is going to be satisfying or appropriate unless everyone is enthusiastically enjoying what’s happening.

Bored in the bedroom? Take your sex somewhere else. If you’re nervous about having sex out in public, try new places in your own home, such as the kitchen or the laundry room, on the couch or on the stairs. 

Bored in the bedroom? Take your sex somewhere else.

Many people recommend having sex in your own backyard, where you can get the thrill and newness of being outside without any legal risk. Having sex in front of a mirror, in a hotel, or in a car can also be great options to try.

Many relationships have one partner who drives more of the intimacy. Often one person initiates sex more often. Change this up! The one who’s typically the pursuer might love being pursued, and the one who’s usually pursued might love being in charge.

Touching yourself is one of the best ways to stay connected to your body and find out what feels good. It’s also a great way to get comfortable with your own body and stay aware of your arousal. Many partners enjoy watching each other touch themselves. Talk to your partner about trying this if it’s something you feel ready for.

While no one should be required to look perfect every night, how you dress for sex can bring immediate energy into the room. Clothing choices can be one of the most effective means of foreplay, turning your partner on without even touching them.

Have you always wanted to try kinky things in bed but have been embarrassed about your desire? Try not to be. Exploring new sides of your sexuality can be an important part of your sexual desire and health. 

Have you always wanted to try kinky things in bed but have been embarrassed about your desire? Try not to be.

It’s a good idea to openly communicate your kinky ideas with your partner, but together you can make a plan to try something erotic and passionate that you are both into.

Vibrators, lubes, whipped cream, feathers, toys — there are so many tools available to enhance both sex and orgasm for you and your partner. Remember that a toy or tool (like a vibrator) doesn’t have to be only for solo sexual encounters. Most sex toys can be used by both partners, so do some research and bring out the toys!

Crawl into bed naked. Being naked obviously opens the door to more intimacy, but it can also be great for your self-esteem and your comfort level with your own body. You’ll also notice more things to love about your partner’s body as you snuggle up together.

While being a giver in the bedroom can be a great role to play, sometimes you need to verbalize what you need as well. Everyone wants sexual climax. Sometimes you may have to ask for exactly what you want or need. That’s okay! Your partner will be most satisfied when they know that you are satisfied too.

All relationships go through dry spells. Recognizing this as normal is one of the first steps to maintaining your relationship’s health. If you and your partner want to improve your sex life, be open to trying new sex ideas or changing the rules a little. You may be surprised by how much closer the two of you will grow. 

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