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How to Masturbate: Best Tips for Solo Play

Healthy eating, exercise, and getting enough sleep are all vital for health and wellbeing. But there’s another activity that’s great for your body and mind that’s less talked about: masturbation. 

Masturbation is a healthy part of life with many benefits. It’s a great way to unwind, learn more about your body, release sexual tension, encourage better sleep, and improve your sex life in general. It can also help relieve menstrual cramps and possibly migraine headaches. 

So, why not make it as pleasurable as possible? Here, you’ll find the best tips on how to masturbate.

To make your masturbation session extra-exciting, start by setting the mood. Foreplay is not just for having sex with a partner, it’s important for masturbation as well. 

To prepare yourself, you can: 

  • Find a private place where you won’t be disturbed. You can take your time and explore new territory when you eliminate the fear of being interrupted. 
  • Set the lights just right. Keep the lights dim but not completely dark. It can be a huge turn-on to see your body while you’re masturbating. Light some candles for a romantic setting. 
  • Turn on some music. Music can help you let go and get in the mood. Keep a running playlist of songs that turn you on. 
  • Read some erotica. Explore different types of erotica and find out what you like best. Erotica is a great way to get turned on even before you start touching yourself. 
  • Keep a sex toy on hand. Even if you don’t think you’re going to use it, keep your favorite sex toy at arm’s length so that you can reach for it if the mood strikes.
  • Get some lubricant (lube). Lube can make things go more smoothly and increase pleasure. It’s good to have around even if you don’t generally have issues with self-lubricating. 
  • Bring a mirror. If you’re into it, watching yourself masturbate can be a great way to get yourself even more excited.
  • Take it slow. Remember, it isn’t a race. Take your time and pay attention to the way your body reacts to each touch and movement. Think of it as your time to get to know yourself better. Not only will this help increase pleasure for yourself, but it might also improve your sex life with a partner.

Anything that makes you feel good during masturbation is an option. Every woman’s body is unique, and there are lots of techniques to explore. 

The clitoris is an erogenous organ located at the top of the vulva. Although researchers once thought it was about the size of a pea, we now know that it’s much bigger than that. The glans is the part of the clitoris that can be seen, and the rest of the clitoris is internal. 

With over 8,000 nerve endings, the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones. The clitoral hood protects it from unwanted friction.

Anything that makes you feel good during masturbation is an option. Every woman’s body is unique, and there are lots of techniques to explore.

Clitoral stimulation is one of the most common ways that women report being able to reach orgasm. 

To masturbate with clitoral stimulation, you can start with a massage of the pubic mound, outer lips of the vulva, and inner lips of the vulva. Once you feel ready, move to your clitoris and start rubbing, stroking, or tapping on the clitoral hood. Try stroking in circular, up-down, and side-to-side motions. When something feels good, explore it. As you get closer to orgasm, you may want to intensify the movements by going faster and/or applying more pressure. 

Another great way to stimulate the clitoris is to use a vibrator. Many vibrators can be adjusted so that you can find a setting that you like.

Most women are not able to climax with vaginal penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t feel great. In fact, the combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation can bring many people to intense, pleasurable orgasm. 

Most women are not able to climax with vaginal penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t feel great.

Make sure to massage the area before inserting anything into your vagina. Apply lube liberally. Slowly insert one or two fingers — or a sex toy — using in-and-out motions. Experiment by moving your fingers side-to-side or in a circular motion. 

Once you get comfortable, start to look for your G-spot, an erogenous area on the upper vaginal wall. It will probably feel rough and bumpy. Once you find it, begin doing a “come hither” motion, stroking it with the tips of your fingers. 

Some women can reach intense orgasm with squirting by stimulating the G-spot, so put a towel down underneath you, just in case.

If you want to experiment with anal play, lube is an absolute must. Start by massaging the surrounding area, and slowly approach the anal opening as you get more aroused. Using circular and in-and-out motions, penetrate the anal opening using your fingers or a sex toy and plenty of lube.

There are several sex toys specifically designed for anal play, such as butt plugs and anal beads.

As the pleasure begins to build, you can increase your speed and apply more pressure. 

There are several sex toys specifically designed for anal play, such as butt plugs and anal beads. Never insert anything into the anus that doesn’t have a flared base or a loop handle.

Combo masturbation involves stimulating the clitoris and vagina at the same time. You can use both hands for combo masturbation, or use a combination of hands and sex toys. 

You can try starting with a massage of the pubic mound, outer labia, and then the clitoris. When you’re ready, keep stimulating your clitoris as you penetrate your vagina. If you want to go further, try to find your G-spot and stroke that area as well. Many women have reported intense orgasms using this combo.

Combo masturbation involves stimulating the clitoris and vagina at the same time. You can use both hands for combo masturbation, or use a combination of hands and sex toys.

Switch it up. Experiment with different speeds, touch, and pressure to find what feels good for you. There is no one “normal” when it comes to masturbation, so ride the wave wherever it takes you. 

Another great way to intensify the pleasure is by touching other erogenous zones on your body. Try stroking, rubbing, pinching, or pressing the following body parts:

  • Ears
  • Lips
  • Neck
  • Breasts
  • Pubic mound
  • Butt
  • Feet

You’d be surprised what a big impact a little touch can have on other parts of your body. Don’t be afraid to explore; it’s a great way to discover what turns you on.

Once you find a technique you like, it’s tempting to use that same method each time because you know it’ll get the job done. However, switching it up can help bring more pleasure to your masturbation. 

Try switching positions. You can lay on your stomach, sit on your knees, go into doggy position, or even go at it standing. If you have a handheld showerhead, aim it at your clitoris in the shower or bath, and play with the temperature of the water. Make sure to avoid jetting the water directly into your vagina.

Switching masturbation techniques can help bring more pleasure to your masturbation.

Sex toys are another great way to increase excitement and pleasure during masturbation. There are thousands of sex toys in all shapes and sizes, so you’re bound to find a few that you’ll love.  

There are many types of lubes, and they’re easily accessible from pharmacies or online. You can even use a natural oil, such as almond oil. Just be aware that oils should not be used with latex condoms because they dissolve the latex and can cause the condom to break.

If you’re looking for an exciting, safe, and sexy way to explore your body and your desires, masturbation fits the bill. Masturbation is healthy; it can help you find out what turns you on, and it can help improve your overall sex life. 

http://neurologyasia.org/articles/neuroasia-2015-20(2)-185.pdf

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/keeping-your-vagina-clean-and-healthy/

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