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    Can you orgasm in your sleep? A complete guide to wet dreams

    Updated 16 February 2022 |
    Published 07 December 2018
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    Anna Klepchukova
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    Female orgasm during sleep is rare, but real nevertheless. Sleep orgasm, also known as “nocturnal orgasm,” is a combination of elevated blood flow to the pelvic area and being relaxed, which increases psychogenic arousal. 

    Is it possible to orgasm in your sleep?

    Yes, orgasm during sleep is possible regardless of sex, and it is perfectly normal. It’s commonly called a nocturnal orgasm or wet dream. Nocturnal orgasms are mostly associated with male puberty, and they occur as a result of increased testosterone levels. However, wet dreams, or sleep orgasms, can happen to anyone.  

    According to research, sleep orgasms begin with a sexual dream. This leads to increased blood flow to the genitals in combination with the complete relaxation of deep slumber, allowing the body to orgasm without external stimulation. Sleep orgasms vary greatly from person to person. Some people don’t experience them at all, and others have them quite often. 

    Everything you need to know about orgasms

    Does female orgasm in sleep only happen during puberty?

    Research tells us that female sleep orgasm is more common than previously thought. Often, female nocturnal orgasms start around 20 years of age and continue thereafter. Female sleep orgasms are actually more common later in life. 

    Female orgasm generally gets easier with experience and age. Having an orgasm while sleeping isn’t a sign of a sexual disorder or sexual dysfunction. Female nocturnal orgasms don’t reflect a lack of intimacy, and external stimulation isn’t necessary for one to occur. All nocturnal orgasms are caused by mental and physical changes that take place in the body. 

    Reasons for orgasms during sleep

    1. A sexual dream

    A sexually arousing dream during the rapid eye movement (REM) stage of sleep can cause a wet dream. During REM, blood flow increases in the pelvic region, and the brain is perfectly primed for sleep orgasm. 

    Many people report awakening to find themselves aroused or still having an orgasm. This is absolutely normal.

    2. Too much stress or excitement

    Going through a stressful period of life reportedly produces more nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams than a more relaxed period of life. Too much anxiety or excitement may trigger spontaneous orgasm during sleep.

    How to achieve female orgasms during sleep

    According to scientific research, around 37% of women will experience nocturnal orgasms by the age of 45, and this rate increases with age. People who have had nocturnal orgasms tend to have them three or four times a year.

    There are several ways you can achieve orgasms in your sleep:

    Sleep on your stomach

    The position of sleeping on your stomach triggers more clitoral stimulation and is associated with increased vivid dreams. The chances of having wet dreams will be higher if you have not had an orgasm for some time and if you are really tired. Sleeping on your stomach results in more intense dreams and creates more contact between your bed and your clitoris.

    Go to bed thinking positively about sex and fantasize a little bit

    Open your mind to more forms of sexual expression and sexuality. This helps develop a positive attitude about sex and may encourage sexual fantasies before going to bed. Before bed, you can also touch your nipples to increase arousal. Each nipple has several nerve endings that make them super sensitive to touch. Touching your nipples triggers the genital sensory cortex and many people find it pleasurable. 

    Abstaining from orgasm during the day may also elevate your chances of having a nocturnal orgasm. 

    Understand the difference between dreams and reality

    It is important to try to identify the difference between a dream and reality. Once you’re aware that you’re in a dream, you will be able to interact with it. You will be more connected to the type of dream you experience; this is called lucid dreaming.