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Can You Orgasm in Your Sleep? A Complete Guide to Wet Dreams

Female orgasm during sleep is rare, but real nevertheless. Sleep orgasm, also known as “nocturnal orgasm”, is a combination of elevated blood flow to the pelvic area, being relaxed and the possibility of wet dreams that increases psychogenic arousal.
A woman who had orgasm during sleep

Is it possible to orgasm in your sleep?

Yes, both men and women orgasm during sleep and it is perfectly normal. When men experience orgasm in their sleep, these are known as nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams. These wet dreams are mostly associated with puberty in young boys, and they happen due to increased testosterone levels. However, women also experience wet dreams or sleep orgasms.  

This is not at all weird. Sleep orgasms begin with a sexy dream, a research says. It leads to an elevation of blood flow to your lady parts in combination with the complete relaxation while you are in deep slumber, allows the body to reach climax with the absence of any other added help. Sleep orgasms vary greatly from an individual to an individual. Some people don’t experience them at all and some have them quite often. 

Does female orgasm in sleep happen only during puberty?

Research tells us that even more women than one can ever think of are having sleep orgasms. For women, wet dreams or nocturnal orgasms start in their 20s and continue throughout their lives. Women are actually more likely to have wet dreams or sleep orgasms later in life. 

Orgasm generally gets easier with experience and age, when females have sexual intercourse with regular partners with whom they are comfortable. Having an orgasm while sleeping in no way means that one is having any sexual disorders or is experiencing any sort of sexual dysfunction. The nocturnal emissions in women do not represent any absence of intimacy in their relationship or some requirement for external stimulation. Females have orgasms during their sleep because of mental and physical changes lined up to create an orgasmic reaction.

Reasons for orgasms during sleep

A sexual dream

A wet dream happens when females experience a sexually arousing dream during sleep. This sexual arousal happens during REM (rapid eye movement) stage of sleep. During the rapid eye movement (REM), the blood flow increases in the pelvic region, and the brain is perfectly primed to offer a sleep orgasm and this results in vaginal wetting in women. 

The arousal in females is as much as when they enjoy erotic videos or masturbate. Females are brought awake to find themselves aroused or still having an orgasm. This is absolutely normal, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about!

Too much stress or excitement

In some cases, stressful moments reportedly produce more orgasm or wet dreams than at other more relaxed moments of leisure. Too much of anxiety or excitement may trigger spontaneous orgasm during sleep.

A woman who's sleeping after an orgasm

How to achieve female orgasms in sleep?

According to scientific research, around 37% of women will experience ‘nocturnal orgasms’ by the age of 45. The women who had nocturnal orgasms tended to have them about three or four times a year.

There are several ways women can achieve orgasms in their sleep:

Sleep on your stomach

The position of sleeping on stomach triggers more clitoral stimulation and is associated with increased vivid dreams. The chances of getting wet dreams will be higher if you have not had an orgasm for some time and if you are really tired. Sleeping on your stomach results in having more intense dreams, like those about feeling breathless during sex, sex, feeling of being tied up etc. Sleeping on stomach offers more contact between your bed and your clitoris, which might turn you on and cause sleep orgasm.

Play with your nipples

Each nipple has several nerve endings, that makes them super sensitive to touch. Rubbing your bra with your hands and fiddling and playing with your nipples triggers stimulation and bring a lot of pleasure and shoot off sparks in the genital sensory cortex. 

Go to bed thinking positively about sex, and even fantasize a little bit

Open your mind to more forms of sexual expression and sexuality. This helps develop positivity about sex and sexual fantasies before going to bed. Also, abstaining from having an orgasm during the daytime can also elevate your chances of having a nocturnal orgasm. 

Understand the difference between dreams and reality

It is important to try to identify the difference between a dream and reality.  Once a woman is aware that she is in a dream, she will be able to interact with it. She will be more connected to the type of wet dream she experiences; this is called lucid dreaming. 

A woman having a wet dream

How to prevent orgasms during sleep?

It’s fairly impossible to influence what you’ll be dreaming about and whether or not you’ll have an orgasm during sleep. Here are some lifehacks you can try, though:

Relax

Sleep for 7 to 8 hours every day and get enough exercise to keep yourself fit and healthy. Take some time off to for the activities that you enjoy.  Identify some new habits and fun hobbies that relax your body and mind. 

Avoid watching porn, especially before going to bed

Take your mind off horny or erotic thoughts and avoid watching porn movies, sex images, naked pictures, or naughty TV shows. This may help to prevent orgasm during sleep. 

Sleep on the right side and not on your back

In order to prevent accidental stimulation or nocturnal orgasm during the night, women should sleep on their right side and wear loose-fitting clothes. Nocturnal orgasm happens on the back or on the abdomen because of the discomfort and the irritation caused by the pressure on genitals. 

Go for cold showers

Cold showers decrease irritation and genital sensitivity and prevent accidental stimulations during the night.

Avoid caffeine before going to bed

Avoid drinking any kind of caffeine before going to bed. Coffee is notorious as it stimulates genital organs and elevates sensitivity and irritability causing erotic dreams while sleeping. Several foods like eggplant and green chilies also contain caffeine and consuming them late at night may cause arousal and wet dreams. Staying hydrated to keep your digestive system functioning properly. Use washroom frequently and get plenty of exercise to alleviate any kind of anxiety and tension.

Talk to your healthcare provider

If you feel embarrassed and uncomfortable about your nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams, consult your healthcare provider or counselor. Talking about orgasm in your sleep is the best method to allow you to feel more relaxed and comfortable about this natural process.

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