It’s something you’ve seen thousands of times in the movies and on TV. But while your favorite show may make it look like having your first kiss is the easiest thing in the world, it’s natural to feel a little daunted about you giving it a go — after all, you’ve never done it before. Between popping a mint and assessing if your crush actually wants to kiss you, it can feel like there’s a lot to think about.
“Figuring out whether you want to kiss someone can be exciting but also confusing,” says Ellen Friedrichs, health and sexuality educator at City University of New York, US. “A lot of people want to kiss someone they are attracted to or have a crush on, and you might find yourself daydreaming about what it might feel like to kiss them.”
Your friends may be your greatest advisors when it comes to matters of the heart, but if you’d like a bit of expert advice instead (and who wouldn’t?), a Flo expert shares some tips and tricks to think about before your first kiss.
What’s the average age to have your first kiss?
In your teenage years, it can be hard not to feel the pressure to move at the same pace as your friends and peers. But trust us when we say there is no “correct” age to have your first kiss. “There is absolutely no such thing as average or normal when it comes to kissing someone for the first time,” Friedrichs says.
We get it — it’s nice to know you’re doing what your pals are doing, but remember that there will be a right time for you and a right time for them. It just might not be at the same time. “Some people start kissing in middle school, but others do it in high school, college, or later. There are also people who are never into kissing, and that’s OK, too,” Friedrichs says. “Really, the most important thing is making sure that you and the person you want to kiss are both on the same page and feel ready and excited about what you are doing.”
While it might feel like the first step to a world of intimacy, remember that kissing isn’t something you have to do if you don’t want to. You don’t have to do it just to fit in with the rest of your pals, and you will know when the time is right for you.