As its name implies, sex positivity is based on the belief that sex isn’t something that we should be embarrassed about. People who believe in being sex positive have a positive attitude regarding sex and respect other people’s sexual preferences. Sex positivity is also about feeling comfortable with your own sexual identity.
Sex was a taboo subject for thousands of years and still is in many cultures. However, in recent years, a large portion of society has come to accept sex and sexual desire as a normal part of human life.
One definition of sex-positivity states that it is an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation. That said, as long as all parties consent to sexual activity and enjoy it, there is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to having sex.
These are several examples of sex-positive behaviors:
- Being open to discuss your sexual preferences and dislikes with your sexual partner
- Understanding and being comfortable with the fact that your partner might not want to have sex every time you do
- Getting tested for sexually transmitted infections whenever needed
- Practicing safe sex, using condoms and other methods of birth control to protect yourself and your partner
- Being accepting of other people’s consensual sexual practices, even if they differ from your own
- Learning more about our own bodies, how they work, how to keep them safe during sex, and what provides sexual pleasure
- Discovering what gives you pleasure and being open to trying new things
- Developing communication skills that ensure that both you and your partner are getting what you desire from sex
- Advocating for comprehensive sex education so that everyone knows how to have safe sex, what consent means, and that having sex is a natural part of life