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How to Choose a Female Sex Toy: A Complete Guide to Dildos, Vibrators, and Everything Beyond Them

No matter where you look these days, female sex toys are popping up all over the place. They are in your favorite magazines and your favorite TV shows. And that’s because the misguided stigma that sex toys are only for lonely or desperate people has finally disappeared. Recently there has been a positive transformation in the way that we talk about female pleasure and female orgasm.
How to choose sex toys

Is it normal for you to use female sex toys?

There is now a much broader understanding that sex toys are not here to replace anyone. They are designed to give the user more pleasure and help you achieve more orgasms. And that is a great thing, because although the stigma around these toys may be waning, the orgasm gap between women and men is not. And that is why female sex toys are so important. Using sex toys is a completely normal and healthy activity and there should be no shame in doing so. Masturbation and orgasm have so many benefits for females. From lowering our stress levels to easing menstrual cramps and even making us happier, sex toys are all about helping us to get there.

Types of female sex toys

If there is an area of your body that you like stimulated, there will be a sex toy available to do just that! Picking your first sex toy can be difficult as there are so many different styles to choose from, but it all comes down to which part of the body it is you want to target. And it's not limited to just the vagina and the clitoris. While these are the two most popular areas for female sex toy use, there are all sorts of toys that you can try. Here is a quick sex toy guide to give you an idea of some of the best female sex toys and how you can use these toys for all different kinds of pleasure.

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Dildo

A dildo is one of the most popular sex toys for women, and much of its popularity comes down to the fact that it is so versatile. Dildos are non-vibrating toys that are used for penetration and internal massage. They can have an anatomical design to look like a replica of an actual penis, or they can be non-anatomical with no penis resemblance whatsoever. 

Dildos come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. You can get a big dildo, a mini dildo, a metal or glass dildo, a textured dildo, or even a curved dildo to directly target the g-spot. While many females enjoy dildos for vaginal penetration and g-spot stimulation, you can also get an anal dildo to penetrate the booty and stimulate the nerve endings there.

Vibrator

You may have heard the buzz that no bedroom is complete without a vibrator of some sort. Well, that’s because these sex toys are designed which the intention of helping you achieve orgasm no matter which part of the body you use it on. A vibrator is an all-encompassing term for any sex toy that vibrates to stimulate erogenous zones of the body.

Figuring out which is the best vibrator really comes down to which areas of the body you like to have stimulated. There are external styles that stimulate the clitoris and internal styles which massage the vagina and g-spot. If you want external and internal stimulation at the same time, there is also the rabbit vibrator. This has a vibrating vaginal shaft and external ears which vibrate against the clitoris so you can get the best of both worlds. 

Clitoral massager

Clitoral massager

A clitoral massager is one of the top female sex toys you can get when it comes to helping women achieve orgasm. 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm and that is exactly what these clit stimulation toys are designed to do. There are all sorts of clitoral vibes available from the large and powerful wand vibrators to the much smaller bullet vibes. These bullets can be used alone or with a partner during sex too as they are small enough to not get in the way. 

Recently there has also been a rise in toys that mimic oral sex using suction and pulsing waves around the clitoris, rather than vibration alone to bring the user to orgasm. There are a lot of clitoral toys to choose from and the best clitoral vibrator is dependent on what you like and how you want to use the toy. 

Butt plug

Female sex toys aren’t only targeted at the vulva and the vagina, though. Butt plugs have seen a huge increase in popularity over the past few years as sex toys have become more mainstream. Butt plugs come in varying shapes and sizes and are designed to create a full feeling in the anus. You can wear a butt plug during masturbation or during partnered play to give the body even more sensation as your sphincter muscles tighten around the plug. 

A lot of people also use butt plugs to prepare their body for anal sex. They are used to relax and stretch the muscles making the entry of a penis or a larger toy easier and more comfortable. You can also look for a vibrating butt plug for even more stimulation to the booty, or even a tail butt plug for animal role play or to look super cute. 

Anal beads

If you want to explore anal play but a butt plug seems a little intimidating, then another option is to start off with a set of anal beads. Anal beads are a chain of connected spheres starting small and gradually increasing in size. What makes them so great for beginners is that the beads only need to be inserted as far as you feel comfortable with and you will still get all the amazing benefits. 

That is because anal beads stimulate the nerve endings at the opening of the anus. This area has thousands of nerve endings, much more than the internal canal, and it is the entry and removal of the beads which offers the most pleasure. This is another toy which can be used alone or with a partner during any kind of play. Try slowly removing the beads during or before orgasm as it can make your orgasm feel a whole lot more intense. 

Anal beads

Nipple clamps

The nipple tends to be one of the erogenous zones of the body that is often overlooked by sex toy users. This is because nipple clamps are commonly associated with pain rather than pleasure. And while this can be the case in some instances, it all comes down to which type of clamp you are using. Nipple clamps work by pinching the nipples and restricting blood flow to the area. If tugged on when being worn, this can cause some pain (which of course, some people will love), but their main purpose is actually the effect when the clamps are removed. 

Once removed from the body, the blood is able to return to the nipple creating a rush of sensation and endorphins. After removal the nipple will be more sensitive and responsive to touching, licking, or pinching. If you are new to nipple clamps, look for a style that is adjustable so you can find the level of pressure you like. Tweezer clamps, alligator clamps, or butterfly clamps are all adjustable styles that are ideal for beginners.

Handcuffs

While most female sex toys can also be used with a partner, there are toys that are designed specifically for this too. Handcuffs are a great entry toy for those starting to get into sex toys and bondage play. Handcuffs are restraint toys for attaching two wrists together or attaching a wrist to something else like a bedpost or chair to restrain movement and the ability to touch from the wearer. The point of this style of toy is to remove the wearer’s ability to touch or move and heighten the rest of the sensitivity on their body. It is also a great way to ease into power play and explore dominant and submissive roles in a relationship. 

Other sex toys for women

The above are some of the top-rated female sex toys but there are still other options to consider. Kegel balls or ben wa balls are another popular option that also has great benefits for the health of your pelvic floor, or you could try something like a finger vibe or vibrating panty. These last two are particularly fun as a first time sex toy when you are playing with someone else too. 

What are the best sex toys for beginners?

Finding the best sex toys for beginners is actually an easy task if you know what to look for. Start with a toy for an area that you know you get great pleasure from and start small. At least if a toy is too small you can still use it, whereas if a toy is too big you may struggle to use it properly or even to use it at all. And, no matter what type of toy you start with, make sure you always buy high-quality sex toys. This doesn’t mean you need to buy the most expensive toy out. Check out reviews from customers and make sure you are finding a toy that is body safe and is going to last more than a couple of uses. 

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