Orgasmic meditation, or OM, combines touching, pleasure, and mindfulness in a unique wellness practice. It involves your partner stroking your clitoris for 15 minutes without the goal of orgasm, simply allowing you to let go and feel. It’s a sensual meditation to help you clear your mind and enjoy a deeper mind-body connection. Learning how to engage in orgasmic meditation may involve taking a class or an online video tutorial.
The touching itself is done in a specific way, which may be different from the manner that you and your partner engage in foreplay. The partner wears a latex glove with some personal lubricant on it, lifts the clitoral hood, and strokes the upper-left part of the clitoris in an up-and-down motion. The upper-left section is thought to be the most sensitive part of the clitoris. The touch is gentle, about as firm as you’d want to touch your eyelid. This pressure doesn’t change during the 15-minute session. At the end of the 15 minutes, your partner will touch your vulva to ground you and conclude the meditation.
OM is performed on the recipient only — there is no touching the partner’s genitals. And although the word “orgasm” is in the name, the practice isn’t intended for foreplay and doesn’t have an end-goal of orgasm. This is because removing the goal of a climax can help the recipient relax, enjoy the sensations they’re feeling, and give open feedback to their partner.
The practice of orgasmic meditation was popularized by OneTaste, a company that conducts seminars on how to properly execute the practice. It’s intended for any adult who feels sexually unfulfilled, desires a deeper connection with their partner, or is open to trying new experiences.
Orgasmic meditation is done with a partner, as opposed to traditional meditation that can be done alone or in a class. The intimate touch that establishes a deeper connection between practitioners differentiates OM from other types of meditation.
Purported benefits of orgasmic meditation include a more intimate connection between you and your partner and increased relaxation. With regular practice, some people discover that their capacity for intimacy, sensitivity, and empathy increases. Orgasmic meditation may help decrease stress levels and create a sense of peace that carries over into everyday life. Some practitioners may notice that they have a greater sense of what they want in life and a greater desire for new experiences and appreciation of life in general. Others notice an improvement in athletic performance and exercise habits.
Purported benefits of orgasmic meditation include a more intimate connection between you and your partner and increased relaxation.
The deliberate practice of OM might be helpful for people who have trouble climaxing during sex or who feel sexually inhibited. The focus is taken away from orgasm as a goal and instead is on the sensation of gentle touch and experiencing physical sensations. Women who have difficulty climaxing may feel added mental stress and pressure during sex, which can make orgasm more difficult to achieve.
During orgasmic meditation, the focus is on physical sensation and the present moment, similar to traditional meditation or vinyasa yoga. However, connection with another person differentiates it from other meditation practices. It combines the feeling of being in an orgasmic state with the focus of meditation.
The practice of OM is intended to create a state of mind similar to the one achieved during traditional meditation, where you’re present in the moment and focused simply on the sensations you’re feeling and the connection to your partner. The intimacy that occurs during OM is intended to help you relate better to yourself while reducing stress.
During orgasmic meditation, the focus is on physical sensation and the present moment, similar to traditional meditation or vinyasa yoga. However, connection with another person differentiates it from other meditation practices.
Improving the connection between your mind and body, similar to an athlete getting into a state of flow during a competition, is the goal of both types of meditation. Serenity and a deeper connection with others is the intention of many different kinds of mindful meditation.
Meditation of any kind can have positive effects on your mental health. If you wish to try something different and explore your sexuality with your partner, then learning how to practice orgasmic meditation can give you both a deeper connection and a closeness that can carry over into all aspects of your life.
Although there are many seminars available to teach different aspects of this practice, you can probably learn it on your own. Be sure to thoroughly research any person or company who is offering lectures, courses, or seminars on orgasmic meditation before signing up for their program.
While many people have experienced positive results from orgasmic meditation, it may not be suitable for people who have experienced certain types of trauma. As with any type of sexual activity, you can stop practicing OM as soon as you feel uncomfortable or want to stop. It’s perfectly fine to not be interested in or enjoy orgasmic meditation.