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Valentine’s Day Sex: Tips to Make It Awesome

Valentine’s Day is the perfect occasion to show your partner just how much you care. Whether it’s after a romantic night out, or a quiet evening at home, Flo offers six hot tips for turning Valentine’s Day sex into a mind-blowing experience.

How to have incredible Valentine’s Day sex

February 14 is recognized around the world as a day to celebrate romance. It’s time to go above and beyond to share your feelings of love and affection with your partner and show your appreciation. 

One of the most popular (and enjoyable) ways to do this is in the bedroom. It doesn’t matter if you’ve decided to wine and dine each other at a fancy restaurant or spend the whole day cuddling in bed. Or maybe you’re not currently in a relationship. Not to worry, because Flo’s come up with a few great ideas for the fabulously single, too! Here are six ways to have the best Valentine’s Day sex ever.

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1. Communicate your desires

Communicating your wants and needs in the bedroom is a key part of maintaining a healthy level of physical intimacy. V-Day happens only once a year, but that doesn’t mean you have to wait till then to express your sexual desires. 

To be good in bed, learn each other’s likes and dislikes. Either verbalize your desires or show them exactly what you want.

For hot Valentine’s Day sex, you and your partner should try to get on the same page when it comes to what turns you both on. To be good in bed, learn each other’s likes and dislikes. Either verbalize your desires or show them exactly what you want. 

2. Explore your fantasies

Let your imaginations run wild. Valentine’s Day sex can encourage you to push aside your inhibitions and engage in a sexual fantasy. Maybe you’ve always wanted to try role-playing or introduce a new sex toy. Sharing these fantasies out loud and imagining naughty scenarios together could serve as foreplay. 

If you’re in an honest and trusting relationship, use Valentine’s Day sex as an opportunity to share your deepest desires with your partner.

Even if you don’t act them out in real life, simply exploring these ideas is just as erotic, if not more so. If you’re in an honest and trusting relationship, use Valentine’s Day sex as an opportunity to share your deepest desires with your partner. 

3. Build anticipation

If your plans for Valentine’s Day sex mean getting to the bedroom later in the evening, consider building up the anticipation during the day. Send a flirty email to let your partner know you’re thinking of them, or racy texts of what you’ll be wearing (or not wearing). 

Going slow later on will also allow you to heighten the arousal. Valentine’s Day sex could start with light touching, kissing, sensual massage, and other types of foreplay as you work towards, but do not achieve, orgasm. This ensures a big payoff in the end for Valentine’s Day sex!

4. Set the mood

Believe it or not, Valentine’s Day sex is better when you think ahead rather than rely solely on spontaneity. Think about all the things that would help get you and your partner in the mood so when the time comes, you’re ready to go!

  • Keep matches and candles at the ready to create sensual lighting. 
  • Queue up a favorite album or playlist to add to the ambiance.
  • Pick out your best lingerie before the big night to avoid scrambling for things right before Valentine’s Day sex.
  • If you’re using sex toys, make sure they’re clean, and stash lube nearby.

5. Remember contraception

And speaking of planning ahead, always practice safe sex, no matter what the occasion. The last memento you want from Valentine’s Day sex is an unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted infection (STI). Review the following steps on how to have safe sex:

  • Choose a method of contraception that works for you and your partner. Condoms are the most popular barrier-based method. (Just make sure your partner is wearing the right size.) 
  • Alternatively, the birth control pill is the most popular form of hormonal contraceptives. However, if you’re not using condoms, it’s important that you and your partner are tested for STIs prior to having Valentine’s Day sex.

6. Take the pressure off

Sure, Valentine’s Day sex can get you and your partner pretty worked up, but sometimes the best experiences happen when you’re in a relaxed state. If you’re stressed about pulling off perfect Valentine’s Day sex, you may be too distracted to enjoy yourself.

Valentine’s Day sex can get you and your partner pretty worked up, but sometimes the best experiences happen when you’re in a relaxed state.

Ultimately, it helps to realize there are 364 other days in the year to knock it out of the park. So don’t worry if Valentine’s Day sex is less than spectacular. 

Fun ideas for fabulous singles 

Valentine’s Day sex can be just as awesome for someone who’s unattached as it is for a couple. Take the time to pamper yourself and express a little self-love by getting up close and personal with you!  

  • Indulge in something special and invest in self-care. Spend a day at the spa, splurge on a new outfit, have an expensive glass of wine, or book your dream vacation. 
  • Take a warm bath to relax. Light a few candles and sensually rub massage oil all over your body while in the tub.
  • Heighten your arousal by reading erotica or watching your favorite erotic film.
  • Up your masturbation game by purchasing a new sex toy, wearing a Kegel exerciser, or masturbating in the mirror. 
  • Don’t limit yourself to the usual V-Day conventions or expectations. Spend it exactly the way you want to without feeling guilty or ashamed of being single.

Takeaway

Whether you’re in a relationship or riding solo, Valentine’s Day sex can be equally pleasurable either way. However you decide to celebrate, remember to express as much love and affection as possible for your partner and yourself!

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