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8 Tips to Prepare for Wedding Night Sex

For some couples, wedding night sex can bring a certain level of anxiety. The desire to perform well, to feel loved, to satisfy — all of these can cause nervousness. While no one can guarantee that your wedding night will be perfect, there are some things you can try to make it more special.

It’s no surprise that communication is at the top of the list of must-haves for a great wedding night. Good communication is vital to nearly every aspect of a relationship, and sex is no exception. What do you want from that night? Do you and your partner think you can meet each other’s desires? If not, are there tools or resources that may help? 

This may feel like an uncomfortable conversation to have, but if you and your partner have specific wishes for the night, see if you can figure out how to make them come true!

If you’ll be having sex for the first time on your wedding night, it’s a good idea to do some research. Learn about your anatomy. Consider masturbation as you get to know your body. Find some reliable sources that teach about positions and foreplay.

You’ve likely just pulled off a great party and a gorgeous wedding, but it might have come with loads of stress. It’s time to calm yourself down and set the mood.

Light candles, dim the lights, and spend some time letting go of any stress the wedding caused.

It may be nice to have a glass of wine or champagne with your new spouse. Light candles, dim the lights, and spend some time letting go of any stress the wedding caused.

Too much alcohol can inhibit your ability to have great sex or reach orgasm. Know your limits, and stay within them at your wedding.

Some couples want to conceive right away. Make this decision with your partner early on, well before your wedding night. It’s never a good idea to be making this choice in the middle of sex.

If conception is your wedding night goal, make sure you understand the details of how to get pregnant. If you can, time your cycle to ensure wedding night sex occurs during your ovulation. Although we don’t yet know which positions are better at helping women conceive, it never hurts to check out your options. 

Do some research about the best conditions for conception to ensure that you and your partner give yourselves the best chance of a wedding night baby.

For those not interested in a wedding night baby, make sure you’re ready with birth control. There are a variety of contraceptive options for women today, including vaginal rings, birth control pills, intrauterine devices, spermicide, and implants. 

For those not interested in a wedding night baby, make sure you’re ready with birth control.

Make sure that you know how to use your chosen method of contraception correctly. Depending on when you started your birth control method, it’s also important to know if the appropriate amount of time has passed for you to safely have sex without backup protection.

If you do need a backup method of birth control, invest in some condoms. When used appropriately, condoms are 98 percent effective at preventing pregnancy and highly effective at preventing the transmission of sexually transmitted infections.

The choice of whether or not to have period sex differs between couples. If you don’t want to be on your period on your wedding night, some birth control methods can control when or if you have your period. If you are on your period for your wedding night, it is absolutely safe to have sex. Just be prepared for some of the challenges of period sex, including potential messiness and odors.

As much as you’ve been looking forward to this moment, remember that your life is not a movie. It’s hard for anything to match up to your imagination, so try to keep your expectations open and remember that perfection isn’t realistic. 

As much as you’ve been looking forward to this moment, remember that your life is not a movie.

Know that you want it to feel good, that your partner wants it to feel good, and that you’ll have plenty of time and chances to keep figuring it out.

The enormous expectations for wedding sex can make it very hard to be present on your wedding night. You may still be feeling stressed and overwhelmed from planning your wedding, and it can be hard to shut all of that off. Focus on what is happening to you. Focus on what you feel. Pick out erotic details that you want to remember. You can think about how great your wedding was, your honeymoon, and your future together. 

There’s a lot to be excited about when you’re looking forward to wedding night sex! Having sex with the person you just promised to spend the rest of your life with is very special. Remember that unrealistic expectations, too much pressure, poor planning, and stress can quickly ruin your evening. Plan ahead, stay in the moment, and enjoy yourself!

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